Hold On to Your Kids by Gordon Neufeld Summary
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In 2004, Neufeld and Mate prophetically warned how peer orientation threatens childhood - years before social media existed. This National Parenting Gold Award winner, endorsed by Dr. Mary Pipher, offers revolutionary attachment insights that become more crucial with each passing digital day.
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When Children Turn Away: The Hidden Attachment Crisis
In today's world, a silent epidemic is reshaping childhood development. Children increasingly look to peers rather than parents for guidance, acceptance, and values. What if your child's difficult behavior isn't a discipline problem but a relationship problem? This revolutionary insight forms the foundation of "Hold On to Your Kids." For the first time in history, children are orbiting around their friends rather than their families, creating what psychologists call "peer orientation." This isn't just teenage rebellion - it's a fundamental shift in human development that began after World War II and has accelerated dramatically in our digital age. When twelve-year-old Jeremy snaps at his father's homework reminder with "Stop bugging me!" before slamming his door, what's really happening is an attachment crisis that leaves parents feeling helpless despite loving their children as much as ever. For parenting to work, children must be actively attaching to adults - wanting contact and closeness. This psychological umbilical cord allows parental guidance and love to get through. Without it, even the most skillful parenting techniques fall flat. The secret lies not in what parents do but in who they are to their children. Attachment creates a compass point in the person a child is connected to, preventing them from feeling lost. Children fear nothing more than losing contact with this orienting force.
The Cultural Breakdown and Attachment Void
When Parenting Loses Its Power
The Flight from Feeling and Emotional Vulnerability
Arrested Development and Maturity
Reclaiming Our Children: Building Bridges to Connection
Rebuilding the Attachment Village
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"BeFreed replaced my podcast queue. Imagine Spotify for books — that’s it. 🙌"
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