How to Love by Thich Nhat Hanh Summary
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In "How to Love," Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh reveals four essential traits of true love beyond mere attraction. This NYT bestseller, praised by Maria Popova, asks: Can expanding your heart like a river - not a salt-filled glass - transform your relationships forever?
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When Loss Feels Like the End of Everything
A wave rises from the ocean, dances briefly in the sunlight, then crashes back into the sea. Has it disappeared? Or has it simply returned home? When someone we love dies, we feel that wave has vanished forever. The absence cuts so deep we can barely breathe. Yet what if this ending is actually a transformation-what if our loved ones continue in forms we haven't learned to recognize? This isn't mystical thinking or wishful comfort. It's an invitation to see reality more clearly, to understand that the boundary between presence and absence is far less solid than we imagine. Grief arrives like a hurricane. One moment you're standing, the next you're knocked flat by waves of sorrow so intense you wonder if you'll survive them. Your heart physically aches. Tears come unbidden, sometimes at the strangest moments-triggered by a song, a scent, an empty chair. These tears aren't weakness. They're your body's wisdom, releasing what cannot be held inside. Let them flow. Think of yourself as a tree in that storm. Your branches-your thoughts, your racing mind-thrash violently in the wind. If you focus there, you'll feel you're breaking apart. But shift your attention downward to your trunk, to your roots. Place one hand on your belly. Feel it rise and fall with each breath. This simple act-following your breath-anchors you in something stable when everything else feels chaotic.
Anchoring Yourself in the Storm
Cultivating Strength to Face the Depths
The Lotus Growing from Mud and Making Peace with Regret
Reconciliation Beyond the Veil
Walking for Those Who Cannot and Recognizing Continuation
The Ultimate Dimension and Your True Legacy
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"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."
"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."
"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."
"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."
"BeFreed replaced my podcast queue. Imagine Spotify for books — that’s it. 🙌"
"It is great for me to learn something from the book without reading it."
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