How to Not Die Alone by Logan Ury Summary
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Behavioral scientist Logan Ury's guide reveals why chemistry fails us and intentional choices succeed. Endorsed by relationship guru Esther Perel, this Harvard-trained dating coach's surprising science has revolutionized modern love. What counterintuitive dating strategy are you missing that everyone else already knows?
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Your Dating Life Is Broken-Here's Why
Picture yourself swiping through faces at 2 a.m., each profile blurring into the next. You've matched with dozens of people, yet somehow feel more alone than ever. Sound familiar? Modern dating has become a paradox: we have unprecedented access to potential partners, yet finding meaningful connection feels harder than ever. Think about your grandparents' generation-they didn't have dating apps, yet somehow managed to find lasting love within their small towns. What's changed isn't just technology; it's how we think about relationships entirely. We're living through a massive social experiment. Dating itself only began in the 1890s. Online dating arrived in 1994. Swiping apps? Less than a decade old. Our ancestors had their romantic lives largely dictated by religion, community, and social class. Today, we have freedom-but that freedom comes with a crushing burden of choice. It's like standing in front of an ice cream shop with 50 flavors: sounds amazing until you realize you're paralyzed with indecision, wondering if the next flavor might be better than the one in your hand. Psychologists call this the "paradox of choice," and it's quietly sabotaging your love life. Social media makes everything worse. Unlike our ancestors who witnessed real relationships in communal villages-complete with fights, reconciliations, and everyday mundane moments-we only see curated highlight reels. Your friends post engagement photos and vacation selfies, not the argument they had about whose turn it is to do dishes. This creates a dangerous illusion that everyone else has figured out relationships while you're uniquely broken. Add to this that roughly half of marriages end in divorce, meaning many of us grew up without positive relationship role models, and you have what therapist Esther Perel calls "the children of the divorced and disillusioned."
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What Actually Matters in a Life Partner
How Dating Apps Are Rewiring Your Brain
The Spark Is a Lie - Embrace the Slow Burn
Decide, Don't Slide Into Your Future
The Work of Love Never Ends
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"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."
"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."
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