Raising Cain by Dan Kindlon Summary
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Discover why boys struggle emotionally in "Raising Cain," the bestseller that transformed how we understand masculinity. Endorsed by Daniel Goleman as "magical," this eye-opening guide reveals why emotional literacy matters more than ever in our culture of silence.
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The Hidden Emotional World of Boys
When the Columbine High School shooting occurred just twelve days after "Raising Cain" was published, it tragically highlighted what psychologists Dan Kindlon and Michael Thompson had been witnessing for decades: boys are suffering beneath the surface of stoic masculinity. Despite appearing tough and resilient, many boys navigate a treacherous emotional landscape filled with isolation, pressure, and confusion. Research reveals that newborn boys are actually more emotionally reactive than girls, crying more readily when upset. Yet something profound happens as they grow-they express progressively less emotion, except perhaps anger. This isn't natural development but systematic training. Our culture actively miseducates boys out of their emotional awareness, teaching them that vulnerability equals weakness and stoicism equals strength. The consequences are devastating: boys commit 95% of juvenile homicides, dominate juvenile court cases, and are seven times more likely to die by suicide in late adolescence. The myth that testosterone drives aggression falls apart under scientific scrutiny-studies of peaceful societies like Malaysia's Semoi demonstrate that nonviolent communities raise nonviolent boys. The emotional suppression we witness isn't biological destiny-it's cultural programming.
School: Where Many Boys Begin to Fail
The Culture of Cruelty and Emotional Silence
Fathers: The Missing Emotional Link
Mothers: Navigating the Changing Relationship
The Dangerous Fortress of Isolation
Breaking the Cycle: Creating Emotionally Healthy Boys
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