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The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating
Andy Stanley
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Relationship
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Overview of The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating

Andy Stanley's guide challenges conventional dating wisdom, focusing on becoming the right person rather than finding one. This practical, biblically-grounded approach has transformed relationships for countless readers - including educators who use its principles to mentor college students. Are you ready to rewrite your relationship rules?

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When Finding Love Means Stopping the Search

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Every divorced couple once believed they'd found "the one." They stood before witnesses, made solemn vows, and genuinely believed their attraction would sustain them through decades of life together. Yet here's the uncomfortable truth: nearly half of all marriages end in divorce, and countless others survive in quiet misery. What if the entire premise of modern dating-finding the right person-is fundamentally flawed? What if lasting love isn't about discovering your perfect match but becoming someone worth finding? This isn't just another self-help philosophy. Celebrities from Justin Bieber to Selena Gomez have credited these principles with transforming their relationships, and college psychology courses now teach this framework as essential curriculum. The reason is simple: it works. But it requires abandoning everything our culture has taught us about romance.

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The Chemistry Trap: Why Attraction Blinds Us

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The Preparation Gap: Why Promises Fail Without Practice

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The Becoming Principle: Attracting Through Transformation

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Love as Action: The Mature Relationship Formula

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The One-Year Challenge: Clarity Through Commitment

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Your Story Isn't Finished: Writing Better Chapters

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