Why Are We Yelling by Buster Benson Summary
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In "Why Are We Yelling?," Buster Benson transforms how we view conflict, revealing arguments as opportunities rather than threats. This Amazon and Twitter veteran's guide turns everyday disagreements - even bagel-slicing debates - into powerful tools for creativity, problem-solving, and deeper human connection.
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Turning Conflict Into Conversation: The Hidden Opportunity in Arguments
When was the last time you had a productive argument? For most of us, disagreements feel like problems to avoid rather than opportunities to embrace. But what if our cultural inability to disagree productively is actually making us more anxious, divided, and stuck? Drawing from his experience managing difficult conversations at Twitter, Amazon, and Slack, Buster Benson offers a radical perspective: arguments aren't weeds to eliminate but potential flowers that might produce sweet berries if properly cultivated. As anxiety disorders affect one in five American adults and societal divisions deepen, learning to disagree well isn't just nice - it's necessary. Harvard, Stanford, and Columbia Business School now require this approach in conflict resolution courses because it offers something desperately needed: a path to disagree without disconnecting.
Understanding Anxiety and Our Internal Voices
Working With Our Biases and Speaking Authentically
Asking Questions That Invite Surprising Answers
Building Arguments Together: The Potluck Approach
From Argument to Adventure: The Path Forward
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"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."
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"BeFreed replaced my podcast queue. Imagine Spotify for books — that’s it. 🙌"
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