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Why Does He Do That?
Lundy Bancroft
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Psychology
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Unmasking abusers' hidden tactics, Bancroft's revolutionary guide has transformed therapy practices worldwide. This landmark work - recommended by psychologists and law enforcement alike - reveals the chilling psychology behind manipulation that countless survivors never saw coming until it was too late.

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When Love Becomes a Weapon

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He brings flowers after screaming at you for hours. He apologizes tearfully, then checks your phone while you sleep. He tells you you're overreacting-right after punching a hole in the wall beside your head. If you've ever wondered why someone who claims to love you can treat you this way, you're asking the question that haunted counselor Lundy Bancroft for fifteen years as he worked with over 2,000 abusive men. What he discovered challenges everything we think we know about domestic abuse. The problem isn't anger management, childhood trauma, or alcohol-it's something far more deliberate and chilling.

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The Comfortable Lies We Tell Ourselves

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The Architecture of Entitlement

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The Many Masks of Control

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The Slow Descent From Paradise

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The Dangerous Question of Change

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Reclaiming Your Life and Changing the World

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