Thrivers by Michele Borba Summary
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In "Thrivers," Dr. Michele Borba reveals why some kids flourish while others falter, backed by interviews with 100+ diverse youth. Endorsed by parenting expert Lisa Damour as "wise, practical guidance," this book challenges traditional success metrics with seven character traits that build resilient, thriving children.
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When Perfect Report Cards Hide Empty Hearts
A Yale-bound student sits across from her counselor, eyes hollow despite her flawless transcript. "High school is nonstop studying, test taking, filling out applications, and worrying," she confesses. "I never could come up for air." Her story isn't unique. Across America, children who should be thriving-intelligent, loved, well-educated-are instead stressed, lonely, and burned out. Middle schoolers describe themselves as perpetually anxious, hiding their struggles from parents who "don't understand what it's like to be a kid." Schools post crisis hotline numbers in bathrooms. College counselors describe students as "empty" and "soulless." Something has gone profoundly wrong. We've confused academic achievement with actual success, trading character for credentials. But research spanning four decades reveals a surprising truth: the real predictors of thriving aren't SAT scores or piano recitals. Emmy Werner spent forty years tracking 698 Hawaiian infants, many facing severe adversity-poverty, parental alcoholism, family dysfunction. Yet one-third grew into "competent, confident, and caring" adults who thrived despite their circumstances. What separated them from peers who struggled? Not genetics or IQ, but specific learned traits that served as protective factors. These resilient children shared two key factors: strong bonds with at least one supportive adult and seven essential Character Strengths-self-confidence, empathy, self-control, integrity, curiosity, perseverance, and optimism. These strengths boost mental toughness, social competence, and emotional agility while reducing anxiety. Meanwhile, our achievement-obsessed culture produces the opposite effect. Academically gifted youth in high-achieving schools are most likely to abuse substances. College dropout rates soar, with one-third of freshmen leaving after their first year.
Building Confidence and Discovering Unique Strengths
The Empathy Crisis and Cultivating Compassion
Self-Control and Integrity: The Twin Pillars of Character
Curiosity: From Excellent Sheep to Passionate Explorers
Perseverance: The Grit Factor and the Power of Yet
Reclaiming Hope and Optimism for the Next Generation
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From Columbia University alumni built in San Francisco
"Instead of endless scrolling, I just hit play on BeFreed. It saves me so much time."
"I never knew where to start with nonfiction—BeFreed’s book lists turned into podcasts gave me a clear path."
"Perfect balance between learning and entertainment. Finished ‘Thinking, Fast and Slow’ on my commute this week."
"Crazy how much I learned while walking the dog. BeFreed = small habits → big gains."
"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."
"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."
"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."
"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."
"BeFreed replaced my podcast queue. Imagine Spotify for books — that’s it. 🙌"
"It is great for me to learn something from the book without reading it."
"The themed book list podcasts help me connect ideas across authors—like a guided audio journey."
"Makes me feel smarter every time before going to work"
"Instead of endless scrolling, I just hit play on BeFreed. It saves me so much time."
"I never knew where to start with nonfiction—BeFreed’s book lists turned into podcasts gave me a clear path."
"Perfect balance between learning and entertainment. Finished ‘Thinking, Fast and Slow’ on my commute this week."
"Crazy how much I learned while walking the dog. BeFreed = small habits → big gains."
"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."
"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."
"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."
"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."
"BeFreed replaced my podcast queue. Imagine Spotify for books — that’s it. 🙌"
"It is great for me to learn something from the book without reading it."
"The themed book list podcasts help me connect ideas across authors—like a guided audio journey."
"Makes me feel smarter every time before going to work"
"Instead of endless scrolling, I just hit play on BeFreed. It saves me so much time."
"I never knew where to start with nonfiction—BeFreed’s book lists turned into podcasts gave me a clear path."
"Perfect balance between learning and entertainment. Finished ‘Thinking, Fast and Slow’ on my commute this week."
"Crazy how much I learned while walking the dog. BeFreed = small habits → big gains."
"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."
"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."
"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."
"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."
"BeFreed replaced my podcast queue. Imagine Spotify for books — that’s it. 🙌"
"It is great for me to learn something from the book without reading it."
"The themed book list podcasts help me connect ideas across authors—like a guided audio journey."
"Makes me feel smarter every time before going to work"
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