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Becoming Attached
Robert Karen
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Psychology
Relationship
Self-growth
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"Becoming Attached" revolutionized parenting by revealing how our earliest bonds shape our entire lives. Once controversial, Robert Karen's exploration of Bowlby and Ainsworth's groundbreaking work now influences modern psychology. What childhood experience might explain your adult relationship patterns?

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When Love Becomes Science

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What if the way you love today was written in the first two years of your life? In the 1990s, when Oprah explored attachment theory on her show, therapists nationwide were flooded with calls from viewers suddenly recognizing decades-old patterns in their relationships. This wasn't pop psychology-it was one of the most rigorously validated frameworks in developmental science. Yet its implications remain startling: your earliest relationship, the one with your primary caregiver, has quietly shaped everything from how you handle conflict to whom you choose as a partner. This invisible architecture of love determines whether you move toward others in times of stress or push them away, whether you trust easily or guard your heart like a fortress. Understanding attachment isn't just academic-it's the key to unlocking why we love the way we do.

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